Keeping Your Kids Out Front Without Kicking Them From Behind

Introduction.
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<br /> AN UP–CLOSE LOOK AT PARENTS AND CHILDREN.
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<br /> Debating What is Best for Our Children.
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<br /> From Benign to Abusive.
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<br /> A SEVEN–STEP PROGRAM FOR ENCOURAGING AND PROTECTING HIGH–ACHIEVING CHILDREN.
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<br /> Step 1: Define and Evaluate "Talent" Why Evaluate Talent?;
<br /> Six Points of Talent Evaluation;
<br /> Advice from the Experts.
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<br /> Step 2: Selecting Classes, Schools, and Camps that Cater to High–Achieving Children Evaluate Four Motives for Special Training: 1) Improvement of Skill, 2) Supportive Environment, 3) Elite Exposure, 4) Resume Building; and Advice From the Experts.
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<br /> Step 3: Beware Abusive Instructors Avoiding the Win–At–Any–Cost Instructor;
<br /> The Burden of Star Makers;
<br /> Understanding The Verbal Batterer;
<br /> The Danger of the Parent Substitute;
<br /> Beware the Sexual Abuser;
<br /> Advice from the Experts.
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<br /> Step 4: Weigh the Cost of Sacrifice Childhood Sacrifices;
<br /> Parental Sacrifices;
<br /> Sibling Sacrifices;
<br /> Advice from the Experts.
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<br /> Step 5: Look Beyond the Talent Into the Future Look Beyond the Talent;
<br /> Look Where You′re Going;
<br /> Beware the Downside of Competition;
<br /> Watch Those Social Skills;
<br /> Minimize Chronic Stress;
<br /> Nurture Your Parent/Child Relationship;
<br /> Advice from the Experts.
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<br /> Step 6: Beware the Red Flags of Achievement by Proxy Distortion Burnout;
<br /> Over–training;
<br /> Depression;
<br /> Psychological Pain and Illness;
<br /> Eating Disorders;
<br /> Substance Abuse;
<br /> Answering a Cry For Help.
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<br /> Step 7: Take a Good Look at your Parenting Style Autocratic Controller;
<br /> Narcissistic and Needy;
<br /> Financially Hungry;
<br /> Overly Competitive;
<br /> Frustrated Wanna–Be or Has–Been;
<br /> Living in Denial;
<br /> Untangling the Roots of ABPD;
<br /> Encourage and Support.
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<br /> Epilogue.
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<br /> Chapter Notes.